Melbourne’s lifestyle venues, covered in full — what each one is, who it suits, how entry works, and how to book. We cover the city’s two fixed lifestyle bars in depth, and list the other operators we’ve verified below.
Between Friends
A wine bar in Melbourne’s inner south-east running a weekly themed calendar — decade nights, karaoke, colour themes and age-bracketed events. Pre-book, text to hold a place, or walk up before the 11:00pm entry cut-off. Single men only at nominated events.
Pineapples Lifestyle Bar
A purpose-built venue with a performance-led calendar — DJ nights, live sets, workshops and dedicated newcomer events. Operates an introduction system for new guests; the address arrives on your purchased ticket.
Choosing between the two
Both are worth your time, and most people in the scene use both. The short version:
Between Friends is the more casual, conversational room — a bar first, with a theme on top. Easier to reach by public transport, more flexible about walk-ins, and stronger if you want a night built around talking to people.
Pineapples is the more produced night — a performance or DJ set to anchor the room, purpose-built facilities including private rooms and a change room, and the most structured process in Melbourne for a nervous first visit.
If you’re deciding where to start, read the first-timer’s guide and pick whichever venue has a newcomer event on a night that suits you. Both run them deliberately.
Vetted-entry clubs
Club Gemini
The oldest operator in the Melbourne scene, running adult and swingers parties since 1990 from its own premises. Themed Saturday nights, BYO, entry closes at 11:00pm, and everyone is vetted — including single men, who have a genuine route in here rather than a handful of nominated nights.
Club Nine
The smallest operator by design — invite-only parties capped at around twenty guests in a private setting, with the strictest published rules in the city. Phones stored on arrival, enthusiastic-consent policy, and a stated 1:1 ratio on MFM events. No walk-ins, ever.
Also operating in Melbourne
Other operators we’ve verified. Check their own sites before booking.
Virtue & Vice
An organiser rather than a fixed venue, running erotic parties at hired Melbourne spaces with stage performances and dedicated consent staff at every event. One of the few Melbourne options publishing a route in for single men.
Wet On Wellington
A Collingwood men’s sauna and bathhouse whose regular calendar is LGBTQ+ men’s events, but which opens once a month for a Swingers Couples Pool Party. Part of the same group as Shed 16. Published prices, an open address, and Monday nights — unusual on every count.
Saints & Sinners Ball
Australia’s longest-running large-scale event in this space — a produced erotic ball for swingers and the adventurous, running for decades. Erotic dress is a strict entry condition, with street clothes and ordinary nightclub attire explicitly refused. Tickets via general admission; a members-only area sits behind it.
Melbourne Inner Circle
An invitation-based organiser running parties roughly every other month, plus meet-and-greet drinks at bars. Their stated audience is couples and single women, with single men admitted by exclusive invitation only when the ratio allows. They publish an age range of 18–40 and select on stated criteria including appearance — worth knowing before you apply.
Shed 16
A purpose-built venue built around sauna, spa and steam facilities, running the busiest calendar in Melbourne — including Thursday daytime sessions nobody else offers. Formally run: published code of conduct, no BYO, CCTV throughout, and ID scanning at entry. An hour from the CBD, so distance is the deciding factor.
House of Woland
The only operator we have found in Melbourne’s inner north. Describes itself as a different kind of swingers party — an intimate gathering for couples and single women, pitched at bohemians and creative hedonists rather than the club crowd.
See what’s on this weekend, or read the full guide to Melbourne’s swingers clubs. We don’t sell tickets — all booking links go to the venues.
Details checked . Venues change things at short notice — always confirm on their own site before booking. Spotted something wrong? Tell us.